Women dating bisexual men
I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.
I would very much like to be able to love more than one person, but my husband is and wants us to remain strictly monogamous. I think my parents would accept my bisexuality, especially since I'm married to a man and therefore not actually dating women, but they're still busy processing the fact that I'm not Christian.
Since I was attracted to boys, I just assumed I was straight and ignored the attraction I felt for girls.
I never gave myself the chance to think about it because I was safe where I was.
(At least for me; it was the first time I had identified myself in that way.) A year or so later, when I got pregnant, we went back in to the doctor to confirm and after we had heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time, seen that it was a real being, that our lives were about to change, the nurse comes in to do my examination (my boyfriend had left at this point) and tells me in a sly voice, ' I guess we can cross the bisexual off your chart, can't we?
I've only ever been with my boyfriend and one woman, so it was a big deal when I wrote down that I was bisexual on that form.
Being bi and married doesn't mean perpetually thinking wistfully that the grass is greener elsewhere; it means really, really loving your patch of garden, and working on it ardently.
The gardeners are a little out of the ordinary, but the flowers sure are beautiful.*I don't refer to my dude as "straight" because he doesn't like the word.
Here are the four ideas about marriage and bisexuality that I regularly encounter, and why they're wrong: More than one person has assumed that bi-hetero relationships must involve threesomes, regularly. Except that it meant that a drunk girl at a party we both attended, who'd never met me but who had heard that I was bi and therefore "must be up for it," tried to force her way into the room where we were sleeping for an unexpected menage a trois. Committing to a lifelong heterosexual relationship when you've been a part of the queer community can cause conversations like this:"Why didn't I get an invite to your Pride party this year? It's also frankly frustrating when anybody, straight or gay, assumes that I have been magically, permanently cured of my (very real) attraction to boobs by prolonged exposure to my dude's heterosexuality, like it's musky anti-LGBT radiation.
In the same way that straight relationships involve, I don't know, Chinese food, or fighting over the remote. Obviously there are many things wrong with that situation. Sexuality is fluid, and it can change over time, but assuming this in another person is a good way to get something thrown at your head.