In “real life,” when someone approaches and asks you out, you’re obliged by social custom to reply. How can I be mean to someone who thinks I deserve that kind of effort?You may not be interested, but you can’t just pretend that the person isn’t standing there talking to you. So we have developed all manner of ways of saying no thanks, in what is hopefully the kindest way possible. And a couple times, women I have written to actually have replied with nice no thank you messages. And – here’s the odd part – a little uncomfortable.And I understand why many Western men feel so frustrated and stressed in complicated situations when meeting Ukrainian and Russian women in person.Ukrainian-Western dating and relationship can get problematical for a lot of reasons, big and frivolous.Busy week, other things to focus on – sometimes I forget I sent a note at all.
If you get approached by someone you don’t find attractive, for whatever reason, you simply hit delete and move on. I began adapting to these odd new cultural mores, for a couple of reasons.
She has taken the time and is making the effort to look me in the eye and make sure I understand that she isn’t interested and to explain why. In nearly every way I can think of, this is upside-down, ass-backwards and inside-out from how I was brought up.
Ignoring someone – someone who is paying you a huge compliment, in fact – is just flat-out What the hell – was I raised in a barn, she’d ask?
In my opinion, it is important that you come to Ukraine to see her lifestyle, friends and family.
Otherwise, it is also important that the woman comes to you to UK to see how you live there.