Anxiety over online dating
The way the current trend is heading, what will dating be like in 2030, and will that be a better or worse time to be on the dating market than 1995? I think the term “online dating” is part of the problem and makes people who don’t know much about it think it refers to people forming entire relationships online and only meeting in person much later.Simply considered as online meeting people, it makes a ton of sense.I had been going through a revolving door of men, and it wasn’t getting me any closer to finding what I really wanted. One by one, I deleted my profiles from the half-dozen apps on my i Phone screen, and then deleted the apps themselves. I had so much free time now that I wasn’t forcing myself to go on dates on random Wednesday nights.
I’ll admit that during the first few weekends, I freaked out if I didn’t have plans with friends and was forced to sit alone at home on a Saturday.
Effective dating definitely needs to take place in person, the same way your grandfather did it, but I see no good reason why happens—and for the most important mission in most of our lives, it makes no sense to crush your ability to meet great people to try a first date with because it’s not as good a story to have met them online.
I have a friend that goes on two or three first dates every week with people he already knows are potentially good personality and physical matches for him—how you find the right person, and good luck keeping up with him meeting people the old-fashioned way.
But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?
Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?